“It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit,” (Harry S. Truman). You’ve heard “Give credit, where credit is due” but in the workplace, in life, it’s not often you get the pat on the back or the kudos you desire.
What do you do when someone swings in and grabs credit for the work you did?
Go back and read that last sentence. Where is the emphasis?. It’s ALL ABOUT YOU! And, let me tell you, once you’ve clawed your way up that corporate ladder, it’s just as unfair and lonely at the top if your focus continues to be upon yourself.
EGO is a fearful thought – fear that someone is getting ahead of you, taking what’s yours, taking you off center stage. When you are authentic, the real you, when you are led and driven by the highest good for everyone, egos are threatened. Enter stage right: the powers of fear and intimidation.
EGO is at the center of every conflict, every congressional battle, every romantic overture, every boardroom meeting. Some believe it’s impossible to succeed without a healthy ego. Given ego is fear, that doesn’t easily compute. Most employee conferences are centered in the unfair: workplace practices, salary levels, promotions, withheld accolades, misunderstandings and misperceptions. The recent Sony fiasco involving the exposure of private emails certainly BARED egos.
We learn so much when the veil of public persona is stripped away. Consider your impression of the long-trusted late Walter Cronkite. In The News Sorority, Sheila Weller writes, “…in truth (Walter) Cronkite was not so avuncular or so humble.”
“He was a tough, tough guy. And demanding,” says Sandy Socolow, Cronkite’s longtime producer …..”And he’s an egomaniac. You don’t get to be Walter Cronkite unless you have an ego as big as an elephant. ”
“He was called the eight-hundred-pound gorilla,” explains veteran producer Joe Peyronnin, for the way Cronkite immodestly threw his weight around, “but was not thought of any less for doing so.”
The solution is tough: consider others as more important than yourself. Exhortation is key: encouragement and support of others with the attitude of placing giving above receiving.
“”Humility of mind” is really an attitude, isn’t it? It a preset mentality that determines ahead of time thoughts like this: I care about those around me. Why do I always have to be first? I’m going to help someone else win for a change. Today, it my sincere desire to curb my own fierce competitive tendencies and turn that energy into encouraging at least one other person,” (Chuck Swindoll).
Fear and love cannot cohabitate. If EGO is “all about me,” then being driven by the highest good for everyone, is the cure. Life is a grindstone, and whether it grinds you down or polishes you up is for you and you alone to decide, (Cavett Robert).
Self vs. others? Grind vs. polish? Ultimately, who gets the credit?
~ From the desk of Becky Morlok ~
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