img_0477Many of you have asked for an update following the loss of our home to fire earlier this year. What Can I Do?  Thank you for your continued prayers.

Moving through Labor Day weekend, I felt a profound sense of transition. I deemed it a ready departure from the previous eight months of loss and recovery to what I pray are the next eight months of reconstruction and renewal.

Odd, and a bit alarming, I am constantly starving and exhausted. When commenting on this to a dear friend and colleague, she reminded me that when our children were small their phases of great appetite and slumber preceded periods of great growth. Great perspective is invaluable when you’re in the trenches. What’s ahead must be HUGE.  img_1490

House framing and visible structure began this week on a foundation that has been planned, prepped, poured and blessed these past months. Foundations mark the beginning of everything. While it is more exciting to see lumber rise from the ground, without proper preparation and a firm footing, that framing will simply be lipstick on a pig. It was NC State Swim Coach Don Easterling who insisted, “Proper prior planning prevents piss poor performance.”

There are so many decisions to consider when building anything – a life, marriage, home, family, church, company, country. All require foundations of some sort.  

Foundations are only as credible as their principles/principals. What/who are they dedicated to and accountable for? What type of ground are they built upon? Remember The Three Little Pigs? Who gives design and structure to the foundation? Are they money hungry?  Called to their mission? Are there shortcuts taken – a means to an end more quickly obtainable?

Your life, career, home, family, your livelihood are all born of your personal foundation. What is it built upon?  foundation5Billy Graham and J. K. Rowling both said, “Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” See The Struggle.

This summer I read Empty Mansions – The Mysterious Life of Huguette Clark and the Spending of a Great American Fortune by Bill Dedman and Paul Clark Newell, Jr. Huguette Clark’s father, W. A. Clark amassed an enormous fortune during his lifetime. Some of his money was honestly earned, some ill gotten, particularly when he entered politics. This fortune became the foundation and livelihood for vast causes, people and family.

Left to his descendants, Clark’s principles provided the proverbial dynamite that destroyed the bridges to the future. Many of the incredible mansions Clark built, the largest and finest of their era, remain standing today – alone, empty and wasted. Great wealth paid the bills but in the end, the mansions and possessions did not promote happiness or family bonding.

Clark’s descendants described the mixed blessing of inherited wealth:mansions

 “I think having such wealth can lead some people to have a lack of self-worth because of not having developed a lucrative career of their own or even having investigated their own potential. Having an overabundance of wealth can make people insecure around others who have far less than they do, since the former might wonder if potential partners or even friends are ‘only’ after them for their money. Well-meaning people of excessive wealth can feel anxious about the lack of perfection of charities they support, and about the fact that even as willing patrons they are powerless to obliterate suffering – all the while knowing that any small amount of money that they might spend on themselves is still enough to change or even save some lives….In sum, having immense wealth can lead one to feel isolated and to have a false sense of being special.” 

foundation4In her new book, Love Warrior, NY Times bestseller Glennon Doyle Melton explores how to help her daughters grow to be a brave, kind, wise, resilient women. “So what is it in a human life that creates bravery, kindness, wisdom, and resilience? What if it’s pain? What if it’s the struggle?….The bravest people I know are those who’ve walked through the fire and come out on the other side. They are those who’ve overcome, not those who’ve had nothing to overcome.”

Life’s difficulties and challenges provide the opportunities for character, growth, muscled perseverance, stamina and dogged determination. What you are able to learn and earn, overcome and conquer, what you dedicate your life to, through thick and thin, is what will build, solidify and affirm your foundation. Stand firm!


~ From the desk of Becky Morlok ~


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