How many people do you know who live and die by expectations – their own or someone else’s? Dig a little deeper and you will  discover a strung out, worn out shell of a person, often a perfectionist, still trying to please.  I’m here to tell you, today’s expectations are tomorrow’s disappointments. According to Bradley […]

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While Spring arrived late this year, it’s been well worth the wait. What a beautiful shift into the season of transition – pregnant with possibility, profound in rebirth, and filled with new beginnings. Not all transitions are welcome or smoothly navigated. The wait between stations can try the patience of Job.  Seven years ago, in […]

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I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions, but I do reflect upon the lessons of the previous year. If you do this enough you will see your life through wider, clearer lenses. You will also see if you are making progress. Were the lessons learned or do they need to be repeated? Here is a […]

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In my email box this morning was a message from my former career coach, Denise Cooper of Remarkable Leadership Lessons, Inc.  “Morning Becky. I was just cleaning and decluttering my office and came across your file. We’ve known each other for about 10 years. Now #9 at work. Celebrate your day.” My memory flew back to […]

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This is an update to a post I wrote 4 years ago. A friend recently had an interesting encounter with a denim dress and I was reminded of it.  It’s hot out there folks. Be mindful of what you leave behind! It’s been said the mark of a true leader is how he/she leaves you […]

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Ah, May! The most transitional month of the year, full of watershed moments, celebrations, memory makers – time to move ahead on the next step of the journey.  In typical fashion of doing everything all at once, I graduated high school (St. Mary’s School, Raleigh, NC) in May on my 18th birthday. Those years at boarding […]

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As few years back, my husband and I accompanied college friends to the NC State vs. Tennessee football game in Atlanta. Our alma mater, The Wolfpack, was annihilated. After the game, while commiserating over drinks the word SCHADENFREUDE came up. Never heard of the word. According to Encarta it means ‘gloating at somebody else’s bad […]

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It’s a tradition that I write an annual DOG DAYS column. It began when I was editor of the employee newsletter at the Independent-Mail.  Decades later, I’m still at it. My husband and I are moving during these hottest, most miserable weeks of the year. Don’t misunderstand. We are MIGHTY thankful. It’s just poetic justice! As […]

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My posts have been few and far between these past months as my ‘muse’ has been absent. Sometimes, it is still hard to think. Ted and I have been focused on the completion and move to our new house. For those unfamiliar, we suffered a house fire in February 2016. See What Can I Do? […]

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  The events of our lives happen in a sequence in time, but in their significance to ourselves they find their own order.– Eudora Welty Thank you for the incredible feedback from my last post, 10 Lessons Learned in 2016. Many of you commented on your own watershed moments as they apply to life’s tough […]

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