scaredIt seems FEAR and DISCOMFORT have become the flavors of the month. I hear these words regularly from clients, family, and friends, and I am seeing more posts and commentary about it.

So, in the interest of SUMMER SOUND BITES to fan by, here are some thoughts to change that fearful dial in your head to easy listening! Because, what you think about, you bring about!

Today, break a few bars and venture into territory that initially makes you say, “Oh no, I could never.” That phrase is a sign that you have bumped up against the bars of your cage. Notice if it comes with a nervous laugh instead of genuine revulsion (because of course if you are cruel or unkind, those bars are there for good reason.) Do something today that you think is too delicious, too selfish, too wacky to fit within the rules of your life. Get Out of Jail by Martha Beck

sethBut I might get rejected (Seth Godin)

Indeed, you might.

You might get your hopes up only to find them dashed.

You might decide on where you want to go, and then not get there.

You might fall in love with a vision of the future and then discover it doesn’t happen.

How much would that hurt? How much would it hurt to have those hopes, those decisions and that love turn out to be all for nothing?

Of course, it’s not for nothing. In fact, those hopes, those decisions and that love is the foundation for a path worth pursuing. It’s what makes us better…..apply to something that matters to you, something worth dreaming about.

You might get rejected. So what?


mayaOne isn’t necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage. – Maya Angelou (1928-2014)

Anything you hold onto as a “security blanket” (a job or relationship you keep out of fear) is actually an insecurity blanket. Let it go. (Martha Beck)

30 Lessons to Excel in Life in Your 30s and Beyond (Marc Chernoff)marc

Nothing great ever comes from a comfort zone. Period. – If you want to stunt your growth and feel stuck in the same place forever, keep making excuses. If, on the other hand, you want to stop feeling trapped, you have to start doing things that make you uncomfortable – things you aren’t very good at. There is no excuse for remaining stuck. There is no excuse for doing the same exact mundane things over and over again. Life is too short. Ask yourself if what you’re doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow. What a disgrace it would be for you to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of your full potential.


meThe Cure for Fear (Becky Morlok)

There is a 100% cure for FEAR. It’s an old-fashioned remedy. It’s as simple as the change of your mind, the power of your will, the content of your heart, the desire to grow and thrive. Like all antidotes, it doesn’t work without use. The solution: Fear and love cannot co-exist. Your heart must choose. It’s impossible to feel gratitude and fear simultaneously. A loving, grateful heart will trump fear EVERY time.

Never, ever be less than you are because someone might paint you with a brush of a color you are not.


danceIt is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run but, it will never make you less afraid. – The Dance of Anger by Dr. Harriet Lerner

If you really want to do something, no one can stop you. But if you really don’t want to do something, no one can help you. (James A. Owen)

If following your heart’s desire seems crazy but not following it is becoming more and more difficult with every passing week or month or year, your choices come down to taking a leap of faith or living with the regret of never having tried. Wouldn’t you rather jump? (Oprah Winfrey)

ERYou gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘’I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along’ … You must do the thing you think you cannot do. (Eleanor Roosevelt)

The tongue in your mouth and the tongue in your shoe are pointed in different directions! (Lisa Nichols).

Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples, don’t count on harvesting golden delicious. (Bill Meyer)

~ From the desk of Becky Morlok ~

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