The events of our lives happen in a sequence in time, but in their significance to ourselves they find their own order.– Eudora Welty

Thank you for the incredible feedback from my last post, 10 Lessons Learned in 2016. Many of you commented on your own watershed moments as they apply to life’s tough times. Some of you were unfamiliar with the term. Blogger Ton Krekels defines it best as a “moment in time where everything changes. A point in time when nothing after will ever be the same as before. To call it a turning point technically is true, but it is an overly simplistic definition of the phrase.”

Watershed moments also mark life’s great times and events – moments when you wish time would stand still, when life is fragile and sharp with perfect joy. Milestones.  Good or bad, watershed moments, life’s milestones are inevitable growth opportunities, memory makers, and life’s yardsticks.

In her book, Watershed Moments, Gari Meacham calls it a turning point brought on by circumstances that stop us in our tracks…Like a compass that provides direction, these are moments that move us to new ways of thinking, relating, discerning, and accepting life’s challenges.”  She names seven specific watersheds:  Change, Awareness, Rebuilding, Control, Approval, Overcoming and Belief.

Only we can individually define the moments that reset and reshape the course of our lives. It’s a powerful decision.  As I continue to move through the transition period from last year’s flood of defining events, the most difficult lesson, and the most critical one is what I choose to do while in transition.

My nature begs me to pray for a good harvest (recovery) but to continue to hoe (move). I insist upon moving rapidly on through this mess to the next step. I’m learning the hard way that difficult lessons are unearthed in transition. Everything incubates in darkness. I’ve lived enough of life to know that you’d best learn these lessons or they will be brought back around to you.

One of Meacham’s specific watersheds is CONTROL. There’s little to no control in transition except for your attitude. I equate it to puberty. Sorry, but it’s true. You’re not an adult yet but you’ve left childhood.  It’s a process to get through with a lot of icky, timely changes. There’s difficulty, awkwardness, and discomfort in being still and WAITING.  Little did I fully realize this when I wrote  The In-Between that Kills in August of 2012, but it became immediate reality last Spring when I posted CINDER ELLA.

There is no growth without change; there is no change without fear of loss; there is no loss without pain.We fear these losses…because like a worn out pair of shoes, they were at least comfortable and familiar. Every change involves a loss of some kind: You must let go of old ways in order to experience the new. – Rick Warren: Why Does It Take So Long? 

It is human nature to stubbornly insist we move away from that which is not satisfying, what fails to provide instant gratification, what requires thought, study, introspection, preparation for what is to come. Our sound byte, get-what-you-want-when-you-want it society doesn’t handle dormant valleys well. “No matter what the shape of the problem, its form or its size, a miracle can handle it. Miracles mean that at any  moment we can begin again. No matter what the problem, as long as we return our minds to a graceful position now, the universe will always help us clean up the mess and start over,” (Marianne Williamson).

To further affirm miracles, read Hold on to What is Good.

For perspective I’ll close by sharing part of an email I received from Mike Dooley:

How is it Becky, that with so many brilliant beings on your planet, so few recognize that when one’s life encounters turbulence, choppy waters, or setbacks, it’s always a sign that things are about to get wildly better than they’ve ever been before?

My soul tells me that 14 months of transition is enough! Spring is here! The SEASON of MIRACLES!  Transition. Time to clean up the mess and sail into a new beginning.


~From the desk of Becky Morlok~

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