While it’s fun to say “GET A LIFE!” it’s a whole different story to actually find one. How do you unearth a new life amidst the pile and pieces of your current/ old one while navigating through an unprecedented period of transition and change?
First, admit that EVERYONE from birth to grave encounters times of great transition. This challenge is nothing new. Whether it’s the first day of school, the first day out of college, the first day on a new job or the last day on a former job, marriage, a move, you must relinquish a lot of stuff you’ve clung to for a long time. That stuff has been the security you grabbed hold of tightly enough that you viewed its loss and change as enemy #1. Release that death grip on security to embrace a new focus, a new routine, new people and new attitudes. “The world fears a new experience more than it fears anything. Because a new experience displaces so many old experiences….The world doesn’t fear a new idea. It can pigeon-hole any idea. But it can’t pigeon-hole a real new experience,” (D.H. Lawrence).
You’ve heard it said, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” You get one shot. So quit clinging to the past. If your head is turned to pine for what’s behind you, what’s ahead will catch you unprepared and deliver a smart smack to your head. “One doesn’t discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time,” (Andre Gide).
As you look ahead, make sure you’ve got a plan or at least begin to formulate one. Does your life have a purpose? If not, you need to determine why you’re here! As the saying goes, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any old place will do!” Every man is born into the world to do something unique and something distinctive and if he or she does not do it, it will never be done,” (Benjamin E. Mays).
Do you know what your gifts, talents and strengths are? If not, it’s time you determined those. There are a multitude of sources to help. (Consolidated Career Care (C3) is a good one! Contact me!) “Concentrate your strength against your competitor’s relative weakness,” (Bruce Henderson).
And finally, what is it that you REALLY REALLY love to do? What are your greatest passions? No clue? Hook into the Dr. Seussism formula: What makes you MAD, SAD and GLAD? “Many people go through life looking for favorable “breaks.” Perhaps the biggest break anyone could ever receive is to decide exactly what it is he or she wants and then become obsessed with obtaining it,” (Dennis Kimbro).
Put your purpose with your strengths, skills and passions and you’ve got the recipe for a PLAN! Now, substitute the word DREAM for the word PLAN. Dreams carry joy. Sometimes the word ‘plan’ can infer struggle. ‘It is … vital that each of us examine the values by which he lives, to decide what is truly important and what will ultimately give him feelings of fulfillment and well-being,” (Michael Lynberg, The Path With Heart.)
To get a NEW life, i.e. to pursue your dream, you certainly want to add joy to the journey. The difference between those who GET A LIFE of joy and those who live a life of struggle are three words belief, faith and action. Joyful people believe in their dreams, have faith they will happen, and they take action. ALL THREE must be present for success. ACTION is where the rubber means the road. There is power in an active life.
Remain focused on the goal. And, as Dr. John Healey is quoted in The Committee of Dads (Bruce Feiler) “….don’t look back, because that just squanders your energy, disrupts your focus and sows seeds of doubt and recrimination that are destructive for yourself and the people around you…You need to learn from history but don’t dwell on it. You need to educate yourself, but don’t get mired in it. Look to the future.”
As Joy Balusch put it, “Life marches by. I suggest you get on with it!”
~ From the desk of Becky Morlok ~Share with a Friend or Colleague