Career Chit-Chat’s last blog, “Got Control?” explored the importance of loosening your grip and allowing life to unfold, even in total chaos. Are you feeling safe in your own little womb, buffered from the forces of the world? Or do you feel totally out there in the midst of the chaos, pushed and pulled, worn and weary but still IN the game? The answers determine whether you are living life, pursuing your dreams or hunkering down and cocooning into years of a bored, wasted life. EMBRACE THE CHAOS! I’m not kidding.
Hear the wisdom in the words of Bruce Wilkinson in his book, The Dream Giver:
“A Comfort Zone is our cozy quilt of relationships. It’s the padding of routines that make us feel good. It’s the security fence of acceptable behavior. It’s the steel mesh of our past successes and failures.….comfort is the biggest enemy of your Dream…..Dreams are to help someone else. Comfort is to help yourself…..comfort turns into a prison…the more you turn away from your fear, the more you believe that your Comfort Zone is home. And the more time you spend there, the more you become convinced that because you haven’t stepped through fear, you can’t….stepping through fear is a small price tag for a Big Dream.
A Dreamer is a person whose life is in motion….I tell motivated Dreamers that if they’re not encountering a Comfort Zone issue regularly, something is wrong.”
Embracing chaos and discomfort is a by-product of relinquishing control of your world. Human nature insists this is totally illogical. WAY out of people’s comfort zones, like overcoming fear of failure, it is critical for success. Life lessons are continually brought to us until we learn from them and move on to the next challenge. By consistently refusing to answer their call to act and to move through them, we succumb to stagnation, life moves on without our participation, and we miss the adventure and meaning of it all. What a waste and a tragedy. See previous blog: Tragedy of the Unopened Gift.
Thus the purpose and wisdom of boot camps and high adventure outings scheduled for college freshmen, business teams, and leadership development programs. “The single best way to develop leaders is to take people out of their safe environment and away from the people they know, and throw them into a new arena they know little about. Way over their head, preferably. In fact, the more demanding their challenges, the more pressure and risk they face, and the more likely a dynamic leader will emerge,” (Bruce Wilkinson).
Summer is a great season to embrace discomfort by facing a fear, trying something new. I double-dog-dare you! For fortification, keep this Franciscan Prayer handy and wait for the growth.
May God bless you with discomfort
At easy answers, half-truths, and superficial relationships,
So that you may live deep within your heart.
May God bless you with anger
At injustice, oppression and exploitation of people,
So that you may work for justice, freedom and peace.
May God bless you with tears
To shed for those who suffer pain, rejection, hunger, and war,
So that you may reach out your hand to comfort them
And turn their pain into joy.
And may God bless you with enough foolishness
To believe that you can make a difference in the world,
So that you can do what others claim cannot be done
To bring justice and kindness to all our children and the poor.
~From the desk of Becky Morlok~Share with a Friend or Colleague